If you are anything like me, my friends, family and clients, the holidays can be a very difficult time. There are stressors over finances, timeshare schedules, getting the children to all of their activities, showing up for parties, meal preparation, getting together with extended family, trees, baking, decorating…. OH MY!!!!
The worst part of all of this is that we are pressured into feeling cheerful, grateful, and jolly all the time. But, what if we experienced a loss that makes this time of year painful? What if we are divorced and it isn’t our year to have the children? What if we battle depression, anxiety, substance use, or have no close ties to family and friends? We are coerced into thinking there must be something wrong with us if we aren’t feeling the magic of the season, right?
To that I say humbug! I give us permission to retreat into self-care. It is okay to say no, to protect your energy, to decide who you surround yourself with, and to feel whatever you feel without judgement. This is a great time to sit quietly with ourselves, lovely hot tea in hand and speak gently to our hearts. It is a time to show up in kindness to ourselves and embrace where we are.